I have called my son “beautiful” and “gorgeous” all his life. He’s beautiful inside and out, and I never thought twice about using these words with him. But now that I have a little girl, I find myself calling her beautiful and then following it with “and so smart.” And now that she walks around in her dresses and twirls her little body in a circle, in front of the mirror, and says, “I’m beautiful,” I’m not sure what to make of it.
It’s important for children to have high self-esteem, in terms of their appearances and their intellectual potential and as parents, it is our job to fill their glasses with as many positive comments that will balloon their confidence. I think it’s important to feel beautiful as much as it is to feel smart, and this goes for boys and girls. Read the rest of this article on the WM Parenting Connection for whom I blog at http://www.thewmparentingconnection.com/2011/01/semantics-of-beauty-and-raising-girls.html